Do you trust your feelings and take action for yourself based on your feelings? Many of us grew up learning to mistrust our feelings. "Don't be ridiculous," my mother often said to me when I asked her why she was angry. "I'm not angry," she would say with anger in her voice. "Don't be ridiculous" was what I often heard in response to many of my feelings. So I learned to mistrust my feelings. It took me many years of inner work to regain trust in my feelings.
Feelings are information. Our feelings such as anger, anxiety, depression, and hurt are letting us know that we are telling ourselves something that is not true, or treating ourselves in unloving ways. Our uncomfortable or lonely feelings around another person may be telling us that the other person is being judgmental, needy, angry, blaming or inauthentic.
Are you aware of your inner voice? Do you pay attention to it? I'm not talking about the one who puts you down by the way! I'm talking about the one that softly whispers ideas and suggestions to you; the kind that the other voice might shout down, crying, "Are you mad?" That requires stepping out of our comfort zone, and that is to be avoided at all costs! (even if the cost is living a life of mediocrity instead of the one of your dreams)
Sadly, the latter voice is the one most of us are aware of and pay attention to. The more gentle one, that is our intuition, is often ignored; that is if we're hearing what it tells us at all. The great pity here is that it's our intuition that really has our best interests at heart. Our gremlin (the louder, more aggressive voice) does have our welfare at heart too, but in a protective way. The intuition's way is more expansive.